When I was engaged to be married there were many changes taking place in my life. I was in the middle of purchasing two houses, started a new job, moved into temporary campus housing at the school where I worked, had to move all my things and drive my car to Atlanta where my husband-to-be lived, rent out a condo and plan the wedding. I had a lot going on. I was not able to really focus on my actual wedding. I found a wedding planner and gave her a long list of things I did not want and told her to run with it. She and my husband-to-be, at the time, put everything together. However, if I could do it all over again here is a wedding scenario that would be wonderful:
I would have a traditional videographer as well as a cinematic videographer. I would like to have the traditional video as a way of reliving my wedding exactly as it happened. However, the cinematic video would serve as the video we show to friends and family or showcase at our 10th, 25th or 50th anniversary party. This video would leave out any mishaps like the minister mispronouncing my name or shots of me trying to scarf down food before we have to greet our guests. Instead, this video would show all the great moments as a short film.
Secondly, I would want a better photographer. Our photographer was not too bad at the picture taking, however we've been married three years and we still do not have our wedding photos. Granted I lost touch when the photographer was traveling back and forth to Miami, but I've recently tried to get back in touch to no avail.
Another major change would be the location. I would love to get married on a beach or one of those really picturesque places with a beautifully manicured garden overlooking a lake. I am a water lover and any ideal wedding would involve some surrounding water.
The food. I love to eat, but at my wedding I didn't get to eat. I took two bites of my food and my family told me to greet my guests. The little I did eat was not my absolute favorite, my steak was overcooked and the side dish was not memorable. The caterer also catered the rehearsal dinner and the food was AWESOME, so maybe we just made a bad choice it the items that were served at the wedding. To do all over again, I would love a really good jambalaya or a great Italian spread. My husband is not a big fan of pasta so the jambalaya would probably be the better option since it's his wedding too.
Next, I would change the colors. I like the colors that my husband chose, but they seem like colors chosen by a man: crimson, cream and chocolate. I actually still can't come up with color options, but I just know that something else would have been my preference. Maybe a dark gray and melon or violet and medium gray. As you can tell, I like gray and that would have most like been one of the colors.
I also would have liked to get married in a place where our entire family could come. We got married in a state where our family did not live because of budget restrictions, but it would have been nice for every single one of our friends and family to be a part of our embarking on a new journey.
Lastly, the dress. Although I really liked my dress, I would now prefer to have a one-of-kind dress made just for me. I would love a beautiful material and a traditional style with no beads or sequins or any of those other frills. I just want a simple, classic and elegant gown.
